Black History Month 2021

The FIrst Black-Asian Female Vice President of the United States of American has spent her first Black History Month in the White House.

The vast majority of American women are celebrating the first woman VP and the Black community at large is also celebrating this Vice President.

As I sit here and watch the Vice President speak to us on Politics Nation, I am proud to have been a part of making history by casting my vote for the Biden/Harris presidency.

Vice President Harris is a great representation of what young girls of all ethnicities that include young girls of color can look at and see themselves with the opportunity to soar to unlimited heights because the glass ceiling has been broken.

At the closing of this Black History Month, I would like to admonish young people of color to continue to celebrate their history.  Continue to remember those who came before you and helped to pave the way for President Barack Obama and Vice President Kamala Harris to achieve their positions in government.

There is nothing that people of color cannot achieve.  NOTHING!

I'm reminded of a tweet I saw today of a teacher telling her class that Breonna Taylor was responsible for her own death. Of course, this was not true in any form.

These types of comments made by white teachers are as old as time.  There are teachers that have consistently told our black and brown students that they should not aspire to be President.  They should maybe be a football or basketball player.

I am incensed at the gall of teachers crushing our young black and brown students' dreams.

So, in the spirit of Black History Month, I am singing...

Lift every voice and sing
Till earth and heaven ring
Ring with the harmonies of Liberty
Let our rejoicing rise
High as the listening skies
Let it resound loud as the rolling sea
Sing a song full of the faith that the dark past has taught us
Sing a song full of the hope that the present has brought us
Facing the rising sun of our new day begun
Let us march on till victory is won

Yanna

Gentlemen!

Gentlemen, whereas I am typically harder on women on this subject, you are as much to blame.

If you or someone you know think that you may have fathered a child, please, please seek to have a paternity test to determine the results. If you are, you have a responsibility to that child to be a parent and help in the growth and development of the child.

Children deserve to have their fathers in their lives. If for some reason you feel inadequate as a father, seek help and guidance from friends and family. I'm sure that family members would appreciate your desire to be a father and help in whatever ways they can.

No one is perfect. Not mothers, not fathers.

Children grow up and become the adults that they are in large part of their upbringing. Be a part of that and always, always encourage them to be good citizens, even if you are not. Be honest with them as to not seem hypocritical. Admit mistakes and advise why they might not make those same mistakes.

Children can discern deception. Keep it as real as you can.

Most of all, gentlemen, be there, show love and encouragement to you children.

Yanna

This One’s For The Ladies

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies!

I am taking this time to talk to the ladies on the subject of taking care of the mental well-being of your children.

Some may say that what I am going to say is none of my business. Well, that is true because they are your children and you are solely responsible for their care.

So many children and adults do not know who their father is. This is mostly as a result of the mother making a decision to keep him out of their lives. Now, don't be upset with me, I'm just going to lay this out as i see it.

I am so tired of seeing women on paternity court not knowing who their child's father is.

Ladies, please, if you know who your child's father is, it is imperative that you have a discussion with your child about that. If you don't know, please find out. You deserve to know as well. When they grow up, they WILL want to know who their father is. That is as natural as breathing. When this time comes, you will most likely have to lie to them because if you wanted them to know, they would already know.

Herein lies the problem.

When a child grows up not knowing their father, there will come a time when someone who knows you and your child will tell that child who they think their father is. Once that happens, that child will forever want to and need to know the truth. And they deserve to know the truth.

At this point, you will be confronted with a flood of questions of which you will have to answer (if you care about your child). This is where I caution you, ladies, to be very careful of what you say and how you say it. Your child, be it an adolescent or adult, will be very vulnerable and will be expecting honesty and truth from you.

If you lie, and your child pursues this issue, more than likely they will come across information that will shed light on your deception. When that happens, your whole relationship with your child changes forever. Not to say that they won't love you anymore, just that the trust that they had in you is now fractured.

The child will most probably want to seek out their father because there is a real need for children to know their parents. Both of them. It gives them a sense of belonging and a sense of security. They deserve that.

I've seen grown women who have children of their own struggling with finding out who their biological father is. In some instances, they have been raised by a man that was told to them that he was their father. Only later to find out that someone else is potentially their father. They want to know the truth.

Can you imagine for a moment what that feels like? If it happened to you, then you absolutely know what it feels like. Don't continue that cycle of deception with your children. These children have gone through some tough times.

I understand that you think that you know what's best, but in the grand scheme of this situation, you are causing great harm to the psychological and emotional well-being of your child. These issues do not go away. They can get easier to deal with over time with help from a therapist, but none the less remains an issue.

Please, ladies, take the best care of your children that you can, and even if you made a mistake and would rather your child not know that, it will be better in the long run for them to have heard it from you than from someone else. As it is said, 'It All Comes Out In The Wash'. You be the cleaner and shelter your children from the potential dirt that will only cause them harm.

Love your children in every way you can and be as honest with them as you can. Shelter them from harm even if it means that you have to suffer in some form for them to be safe.

I know that this was a long-winded conversation, but I felt the need to talk to you about this. This is something that weighs heavily on my heart. Even though I know who my biological parents are and have known all my life, I know that I would be devastated as an adult to receive information to the contrary.

I say again ladies, please be honest with your children about who their father is. It is very important. Only you can determine how to go about that, but give them the opportunity to decide if they want a relationship with their fathers. Their decision will be easier for them to deal with than one that was forced upon them with no consideration of how they would be impacted.

Take care.

Yanna