A Friend Said…

Have you ever had a friend say something to you that always comes to mind in certain situations?

My best friend once told me that you never know where life will take you. Well for them it just meant that they were not ready to commit to whatever was in front of them at the time.

We never know where life will take us, but we do have a hand in it. There are things that we can control the narrative of and things that we can't. We all make decisions constantly, though we don't think about it. Turn left, turn right, go straight, eat this, eat that. Most decisions don't require a lot of thought, but there are some that we really should put thought into.

How many times have we said something or done something that we immediately wish that we hadn't? I find that when we are speaking with others, we really should slow down and really know and understand what we are saying. I'm learning that in my later years I need to not be so immediately reactive. I tend to say what is immediately my reaction to a thing. Whether it was something that was said or done.

I used to laugh at my great grandmother (who was 102 when she died) because she said whatever she wanted to say whenever she wanted to. It didn't matter who she was talking to or what the subject was. I find myself at that stage of my life where I'm doing that, even though I have a long way to go to catch up with her.

With that said, I have to constantly remind myself, because I am a feeler, that I can't do that because nine times out of ten what I said will bother me because I said it more than it will bother the person that it was said to.

So, let me tell you, as a friend, be aware of what you say and how you say it. It can literally make or break someone's spirit. We are in a time where if we don't monitor what we say and how we say it, can really be a matter of life or death.

Now, when you think of my words, you can say, "A friend said...".

Take care of yourself and be safe.


The State of the Mind

With all that is going on around us today, it is no wonder that so many things are spiraling out of control.

As we attempt to deal with the changes that we have been forced to implement into our daily lives, it can become a bit overwhelming. Some of us are faced with the whole back-to-school issue. Do we or don't we? For each family, this crisis can and does have a different answer. It can be argued in a lot of different ways.

What we do know is that the number of cases and deaths attributed to COVID-19 changes from one week to another. At one point, the numbers are going down. At another point, the numbers are going up. Another thing that we know for sure is that we have got to come up with an equation that gets us control of and elimination of this virus.

During this time, as many of us are spending way more time together as a family and trying to cope with the daily decision making of safety, please remember that we need to take time away from everything and everyone in order to keep ourselves together mentally and spiritually. This time does not have to be lengthy, but enough to remove ourselves away from the noise in order to settle our minds.

We must remember that in what used to be normal times, we were away from our families for 8-10 hours a day. During that time, we had conversations with other adults about any number of topics. Now, for some of us, we don't have that luxury.

Please, let's individually take care of our minds so that we can collectively take care of each other.


Our Voices

As we near the country's election day, let us look back over the past 4 years and contemplate the things that we have witnessed and suffered through.

We have seen some fundamental things that have caused us to question our democracy. Our constitution has been debated on topics that have not been debated in the country's modern history, and in some cases have never been debated. As we have in years past debated our civil liberties, we have come to debate the issue again.

We seem to be in a cycle of human unrest that countless citizens are protesting. There is a tremendous divide in the nation regarding the constitutional right of all citizens to be treated equally under the law.

I'm not sure where we go from here. I guess for me, I have a hard time understanding why any one person or group of people's lives can be considered more important than another's. This is evident in countless scenarios that can be seen on any given media outlet. Whereas we have to be vigilant in our discernment of what is real and what is not, we must pay attention.

My hope for this election cycle is that we have registered to vote and that we exercise our right to vote. Also, that we have been in tune with things that are transpiring around us to be able to make an informed assessment of changes that need to be made. We can make a difference in our society if we use our voices when we vote. Let's not stand on the sidelines and allow things to happen around us when we can make a difference.

Vote. Vote. Vote. November 3, 2020.