I know.  I know.  Another posting on this ongoing pandemic.

I just want to admonish everyone to be vigilant with your safety and that of others.  Please consider that wearing a mask and maintaining social distancing is not only for someone else's safety but also for your own.

I'm sure that most of us are feeling inhibited and isolated from our daily routines and our social events.  Tempers are flaring and running hot.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion and beliefs.  If we would only consider that others' opinions and beliefs may not be ours.  Just because we don't feel the same way about something doesn't make the other person wrong.

With the daily increase of cases, we must consider the fact that this pandemic is not going to go away or even get better if we don't considerably slow down the number of people contracting the virus.

We have to do everything we can to ride this out until a vaccine or cure is found.

We must wear masks when in public and maintain social distancing.  We may not like it, we may even rebel against it.  But remember that this is not going away without all of us taking responsibility to do what we can (masks and distancing) for as long as it takes for the country to recover.

Be safe and STOP THE HATE!  Everyone wants and deserves to live.  We are all human beings.


America’s Supposed Ignorance

The country has just celebrated Juneteenth.  On June 19, 1865, (in Texas), slavery was said to have ended.  The Emancipation Proclamation was declared by President Lincoln on January 1, 1863.

98 years later, I was born into a society in which I was supposedly free.  I was not.

"I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America.  And to the Republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all"

When I was in school, from kindergarten through 12th grade, we had to place our hands over our hearts and recite those words as if they applied to us.

I can remember when I was in grade school, on the route that we took home every day, we would pass a motel that had a swimming pool outside.  Periodically, I would ask my dad (who is a 91-year-old wounded Korean War Veteran) to take me swimming there.  His reply was always the same.  "Maybe one day, baby."

It wasn't until I was much older that I learned that the reason my dad hadn't taken me swimming there was that he couldn't take me swimming there.  There were no 'Negroes' allowed.  (one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all)

The history books in my day taught us that Christopher Columbus discovered America.  It wasn't until I was an adult that research showed me that the Native Americans (Indians as they were called) were already established here.

Christopher Columbus was an immigrant.  Because he was a white man and had the power to kill and uproot a lot of the Native Americans, he declared that he discovered a place that he actually stole.  Thus white supremacy.

Later, the men of the Caucasian persuasion sailed to Africa and stole Negro human beings from their native land to be slaves (free labor) to make them wealthy with no thought of compensation for their labor.

Ne·gro /ˈnēɡrō/


As of May 1, 2020, there were still quite a lot of Americans that chose to perceive that systemic racism and oppression do not exist.

Since George Floyd's blatant murder by police officers in Minneapolis who have taken an oath to protect and serve and who are paid by taxpayers to do so, many previously silent Americans have raised their voices in protest and are finally saying that this total lack of respect for human beings with Black and Brown skin has to change.

The thing that I have not been able to wrap my head around is the fact that this didn't start with George Floyd.  This has been happening for centuries, yet some in White America have chosen to ignore it in order to maintain their stolen status and subsequent wealth.

I don't like to think of myself as a racist.  I am a fair-minded person that accepts people for who they show themselves to be.  The late, great Maya Angelou said, "When a person tells you who they are, Believe Them."

I do, however, have a bias toward people who treat me unfairly and differently than they treat people who look like them, and people who make assumptions about me because of the color of my skin.

I thank God that my parents didn't raise me to hate [people].  I was taught that everyone deserves to be treated fairly and as human beings.

The reason for the protests that have occurred over the decades, in my opinion, is that Black Americans have been seeking in this country for hundreds of years to be treated as humans and given the opportunities that non-Black and Brown people have been afforded all of their lives. (one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all)

We, Black Americans, are not here by our choosing.  We were kidnapped and forced into this country.  White America made us citizens when our ancestors were forced to have families in this country.  White supremacists will tell us to go back to where we came from.  Well, I have news for you.  We came from here because of you, you didn't come from here. You're all immigrants!,Current%20Population%20Survey%20(CPS).

America can no longer claim ignorance in the racism and oppression of Black people in this country.  Your eyes have seen and your ears have heard.  What you do now will define you in history.  Be the human being that God created you to be.

Vote to remove those that have turned their heads to avoid addressing oppression and racism.  The Constitution was written for ALL Americans.  The last time I looked at my birth certificate, my country of birth is 'The United States of America'.



Thank you to all who have taken a stand and are speaking out in protest against the injustice taking place in this country.

Leap Year 2020

Well, it’s been four years since we had babies born on February 29. I’m still not sure how they celebrate their birthdays. In any event, Happy Birthday to ALL of the ones celebrating this day around the world.

As we celebrate the new lives arriving today, I hope that you are doing, will be doing or did something that will give cause to remember this day in the future.

Reach out to an old friend. Call a relative that has been estranged. Do something to make someone else and yourself feel alive and grateful to be so.

Find peace for yourself and enjoy the life that you are meant to live. Stay positive.


The World We Live In

Today’s world is on a fast track. A fast track to what, you might ask. Well, I’m sure that there are many opinions about that question.

The things that we used to take for granted as far as accepted practices in everyday life have changed drastically. It used to be generally accepted that people were courteous to others. It used to be generally accepted and expected that we as human beings regarded the lives of others.

We now have turned a blind eye and a deaf ear to things that totally go against the expected rights of human beings.

Those of us that think and feel that things are out of control, have to be the ones to have a voice that speaks loudly in opposition to any and all things that go against humanity.

As we go along in our day to day routines, let’s be conscious of the way that we regard others. Let’s take a look at ourselves and determine whether or not we are aiding in the decline of the state of the world. Yes, we are only one, but if we start with ourselves and consistently remember that we are a part of society that is heading in the wrong direction and make a decision on a daily basis that we can make the world better, the change begins.

And, even if we don’t see the change at any particular moment, we can rest assured that we, as individuals, have made a difference.

Let’s do it!


The End Of Summer

Well, we've reached the point of no return.

What happened to the first 8 months of the year?  Summer is over and the kids are back in school.  The diminished traffic that we enjoyed during the summer months is gone.  We're back in the rat race of 80 miles per hour on the Beltway during rush hour, or maybe 30 miles per hour when there's a car blocking the center lane.

Either way, we must be vigilant with our safety.

It's time to begin preparing yourselves for the end of the year.  Yes, that's right, Christmas is coming!!!  No more holidays before Thanksgiving and some of us can't wait to get to those so-called bargains after 6:00 pm on Thanksgiving day.

Whatever happened to Thanksgiving being a family holiday.  Retail employees cannot even enjoy the day because they have to work.  So sad!

Well, now that I've prepared you for the rest of the year, ENJOY!



Secrets and Lies

The title says it all.

I don't know why part of the culture of some families is to keep secrets and tell lies from generation to generation.

There is so much about a person's family that has direct impact and implications.  A lot of people are influenced by bloodlines and heritage, yet before DNA testing you only had the stories of surviving ancestors to tell you who you were.

How accurate, or should I say, true, are those accountings of who you are?

We are told, by the author, who our parents and grandparents are.  Who our siblings and cousins are and what standing our family has in the community.

How many people in this country alone have become adults and find themselves wondering who they are and where they truly come from?

Secrets and Lies!

There are things that are inherited genetically that people never find out about until there is an unexplained medical emergency.  Oftentimes, medicine has to tell us who we are and where we came from.  Science (DNA) can definitely tell us who we are and are not related to.

I wonder how many people were told that this person was a relative to only find out when there was a medical emergency that that person, in fact, was not related to them at all?

These situations and circumstances can be the difference between life and death.

Most families who keep secrets do so from pure selfishness.  Infidelity, incest, rape, etc.  It's always determined, by the person keeping the secret, that it's best to not share the information with the person that needs it most.

Too many people are finding themselves not knowing who they truly are because someone decided that they knew better than anyone else that the information should remain secret.

Until you've been in a situation of not knowing who your real parents are, you can't know how it feels.  When you grow up thinking that this one and that one are your parents, and as an adult, find out that your mother gave you away, that can be very traumatic.

The human race can be so self-centered, that we refuse to think of how someone will be affected by the secrets and lies.

If secrets and lies that are negative or hereditary are consistent from generation to generation, it should be known by the entire family.  That is the only way the cycle can be broken and family members healed.

Stop the cycle.  Tell the truth.  Give everyone the opportunity to judge for themselves what should be done with the information that is given to them.  Stop with the secrets.  When it directly concerns a person, they deserve to know the truth.

Or suffer the consequences when the truth and the secrets are revealed.  They could be the difference between life and death.



A time for work and a time for play.  We all should be working if we can, to take care of ourselves and our families.  I know that times can be hard and that work may not always be available.

When we are working, we must remember that although we are trying to make as much money as we can, we must remember that we must also take time for ourselves away from work.  Most of us work hard and can sometimes forget that our physical bodies require rest and rejuvenation.

When we accumulate vacation time and sick time on our jobs, we should occasionally use that time when we need to.

Our physical bodies are only capable of sustaining itself when we provide the things that it needs.  Rest, relaxation, food, water and FUN.

If you're like me, when I was younger, you may sometimes work longer than the normal 8 hour day.  It can sometimes become a habit.  When my daughter was in the second grade, I used to drop her off at school in the mornings on my way to work.  I had a sitter that picked her up from school and stayed with her until I got home from work.  One morning I dropped her off and she said, "Bye mommy, I'll see you tomorrow".  I was about to say, "No honey, I'll see you tonight", but I couldn't get the words out because her words had hit me like a ton of bricks.  I was thrown into the realization that I had been working overtime every day for the past month or so and did not get home until she was already asleep.

I went to work, told my boss that I was not working overtime anymore except for the end of the month for financial closing.  At 5:00 that afternoon, I proceeded to turn off my computer, pick up my purse and car keys and exited the building.  The sun was still shining!  When I arrived home, my daughter was so excited to see me that I almost cried.  I had to apologize to her for not being there when she went to sleep at night.

Overtime can be good, but let us not forget that our families and our health are more important.  If we neglect our children, they suffer in the long run.  If we neglect our bodies/health, we suffer in the long run.  We can't work at all if we are sick.  Our bodies will shut down if we do not take care of them.  Be aware of the signs that your body is giving you.  Slight headaches, all day munching (no time for lunch), restlessness when you should be sleeping.  All of these can be an indication that you need to rest your mind and your body.  Take heed.


When You Just Don’t Want To Do It

This is a tough place to be in.

There are situations that we are in that we seem to not know how to change them.  We can easily continue in a situation that we know is not good for us because the alternative is to make the tough decision to do what we know we need to do to move on with our lives.

What we must realize is that the longer we put it off, the longer we deal with the impossibility of the situation.

Let's take a look at what it is that we are holding on to.  How is it affecting our day to day lives?  Once we work on it and fix it, life will become so much better.

We often hold on to things because they are familiar.  Just because it is familiar, doesn't mean that it is good for you.

Only you can move in a direction to be in a better place in your life.  Life is not going to allow us only what we want or what we think life should be.  It's hard.  BUT, we have the power to move in a direction other than the one we're going in at the moment when it is not beneficial to us.

Make a move!


Mug Warmer

In the fast-paced society that we live in, things change often.  One thing is a hit today and forgotten tomorrow.

Last week I wanted to have a cup of coffee at work but I didn't want to use a styrofoam cup.  The next day, I brought in one of my mugs from home so that I could enjoy a personal cup of coffee at my desk.

Nowadays, there are the proverbial cold/hot thermos type cups that supposedly keeps cold drinks cold for up to 12 hours and hot things hot for up to 6 hours.  Well, like a lot of us I have a couple of those, but I tend to use mine for cold drinks, not hot drinks.

Thus my dilemma.  I wanted my hot coffee and I wanted it in the traditional way - in a coffee cup/mug.  Needless to say that after about 10 minutes the coffee was barely warm.

Not wanting to relent and give up on my desire for a traditional cup of coffee, I sought to find a MUG WARMER.  Not sure if they even made those anymore, I set out online to find one.  To my surprise, they are still out there.  Of course, having been launched into the 21st century, I wanted the one with all the bells and whistles.

The cost was more than what I wanted to pay for it, but there is the least expensive one that you just plug in and your cup gets hot.

All I wanted was for my cup of coffee to stay warm until I was finished drinking it.  Why did that become so complicated?

For as much as I wanted my traditional cup of coffee at my desk, I have resorted to having it in the 21st-century contraption that keeps it hot for as long as it would take me to drink it, even if it takes me 6 hours to do so.

Modern technology is great, but sometimes I would like to enjoy things from the 'good ole days'.


Resurrection Sunday

Happy Easter!

Those of us, as Christians, celebrate today because our Savior, Jesus Christ was crucified for our sins on what is known as Good Friday - but today, TODAY, HE IS RISEN!  He rose with ALL Power in HIS hand!  He reigns!

As we spend time today with our family and friends, some of whom do not know who Jesus is, let us be examples of the life Jesus led as the Son of God when He walked the earth.  Let us be mindful of the sacrifice that He ultimately made that we might have life more abundantly.

Let us remember and pray for the families of those, some Americans, who lost their lives this morning in Sri Lanka.

We are all God's children.  Let us treat each other accordingly.  LOVE one another.