Black History Month 2021

The FIrst Black-Asian Female Vice President of the United States of American has spent her first Black History Month in the White House.

The vast majority of American women are celebrating the first woman VP and the Black community at large is also celebrating this Vice President.

As I sit here and watch the Vice President speak to us on Politics Nation, I am proud to have been a part of making history by casting my vote for the Biden/Harris presidency.

Vice President Harris is a great representation of what young girls of all ethnicities that include young girls of color can look at and see themselves with the opportunity to soar to unlimited heights because the glass ceiling has been broken.

At the closing of this Black History Month, I would like to admonish young people of color to continue to celebrate their history.  Continue to remember those who came before you and helped to pave the way for President Barack Obama and Vice President Kamala Harris to achieve their positions in government.

There is nothing that people of color cannot achieve.  NOTHING!

I'm reminded of a tweet I saw today of a teacher telling her class that Breonna Taylor was responsible for her own death. Of course, this was not true in any form.

These types of comments made by white teachers are as old as time.  There are teachers that have consistently told our black and brown students that they should not aspire to be President.  They should maybe be a football or basketball player.

I am incensed at the gall of teachers crushing our young black and brown students' dreams.

So, in the spirit of Black History Month, I am singing...

Lift every voice and sing
Till earth and heaven ring
Ring with the harmonies of Liberty
Let our rejoicing rise
High as the listening skies
Let it resound loud as the rolling sea
Sing a song full of the faith that the dark past has taught us
Sing a song full of the hope that the present has brought us
Facing the rising sun of our new day begun
Let us march on till victory is won



Gentlemen, whereas I am typically harder on women on this subject, you are as much to blame.

If you or someone you know think that you may have fathered a child, please, please seek to have a paternity test to determine the results. If you are, you have a responsibility to that child to be a parent and help in the growth and development of the child.

Children deserve to have their fathers in their lives. If for some reason you feel inadequate as a father, seek help and guidance from friends and family. I'm sure that family members would appreciate your desire to be a father and help in whatever ways they can.

No one is perfect. Not mothers, not fathers.

Children grow up and become the adults that they are in large part of their upbringing. Be a part of that and always, always encourage them to be good citizens, even if you are not. Be honest with them as to not seem hypocritical. Admit mistakes and advise why they might not make those same mistakes.

Children can discern deception. Keep it as real as you can.

Most of all, gentlemen, be there, show love and encouragement to you children.


This One’s For The Ladies

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies!

I am taking this time to talk to the ladies on the subject of taking care of the mental well-being of your children.

Some may say that what I am going to say is none of my business. Well, that is true because they are your children and you are solely responsible for their care.

So many children and adults do not know who their father is. This is mostly as a result of the mother making a decision to keep him out of their lives. Now, don't be upset with me, I'm just going to lay this out as i see it.

I am so tired of seeing women on paternity court not knowing who their child's father is.

Ladies, please, if you know who your child's father is, it is imperative that you have a discussion with your child about that. If you don't know, please find out. You deserve to know as well. When they grow up, they WILL want to know who their father is. That is as natural as breathing. When this time comes, you will most likely have to lie to them because if you wanted them to know, they would already know.

Herein lies the problem.

When a child grows up not knowing their father, there will come a time when someone who knows you and your child will tell that child who they think their father is. Once that happens, that child will forever want to and need to know the truth. And they deserve to know the truth.

At this point, you will be confronted with a flood of questions of which you will have to answer (if you care about your child). This is where I caution you, ladies, to be very careful of what you say and how you say it. Your child, be it an adolescent or adult, will be very vulnerable and will be expecting honesty and truth from you.

If you lie, and your child pursues this issue, more than likely they will come across information that will shed light on your deception. When that happens, your whole relationship with your child changes forever. Not to say that they won't love you anymore, just that the trust that they had in you is now fractured.

The child will most probably want to seek out their father because there is a real need for children to know their parents. Both of them. It gives them a sense of belonging and a sense of security. They deserve that.

I've seen grown women who have children of their own struggling with finding out who their biological father is. In some instances, they have been raised by a man that was told to them that he was their father. Only later to find out that someone else is potentially their father. They want to know the truth.

Can you imagine for a moment what that feels like? If it happened to you, then you absolutely know what it feels like. Don't continue that cycle of deception with your children. These children have gone through some tough times.

I understand that you think that you know what's best, but in the grand scheme of this situation, you are causing great harm to the psychological and emotional well-being of your child. These issues do not go away. They can get easier to deal with over time with help from a therapist, but none the less remains an issue.

Please, ladies, take the best care of your children that you can, and even if you made a mistake and would rather your child not know that, it will be better in the long run for them to have heard it from you than from someone else. As it is said, 'It All Comes Out In The Wash'. You be the cleaner and shelter your children from the potential dirt that will only cause them harm.

Love your children in every way you can and be as honest with them as you can. Shelter them from harm even if it means that you have to suffer in some form for them to be safe.

I know that this was a long-winded conversation, but I felt the need to talk to you about this. This is something that weighs heavily on my heart. Even though I know who my biological parents are and have known all my life, I know that I would be devastated as an adult to receive information to the contrary.

I say again ladies, please be honest with your children about who their father is. It is very important. Only you can determine how to go about that, but give them the opportunity to decide if they want a relationship with their fathers. Their decision will be easier for them to deal with than one that was forced upon them with no consideration of how they would be impacted.

Take care.


Merry Christmas 2020

Merry Christmas Everyone!
I hope that all is well with you and your loved ones.

This has been a very trying year for everyone. Yet, we are here on this beautiful Christmas Day here in Houston, TX.

I am grateful to speak to you today to encourage you to take a break and relax and enjoy all that this season has for you. Some of us are experiencing loss this year, some are experiencing new birth and others are experiencing new love.

No matter what your experiences have been this year, know that someone is thinking of you and praying that you can and will walk into the new year with a sense of better days ahead.

I am encouraging you to enter the new year with an attitude of hope and determination that you and your loved ones will have new and exciting shared memories. Memories can come from anywhere in any circumstance. It's all in how we process it.

With that said, please prioritize and compartmentalize your triumphs and disappointments from this year in order to be able to celebrate the ones to come in this next year, 2021.

I am grateful for having had the opportunity to share with you this year and hope to be able to continue with you in the year to come.

Even in this season, I hope that we are being safe and safeguarding ourselves from this virus. Please wear your masks when socializing (even with family members) to reduce the spread of COVID-19. We are all looking forward to putting this pandemic behind us.

Stay Safe, Be Well,

A Friend Said…

Have you ever had a friend say something to you that always comes to mind in certain situations?

My best friend once told me that you never know where life will take you. Well for them it just meant that they were not ready to commit to whatever was in front of them at the time.

We never know where life will take us, but we do have a hand in it. There are things that we can control the narrative of and things that we can't. We all make decisions constantly, though we don't think about it. Turn left, turn right, go straight, eat this, eat that. Most decisions don't require a lot of thought, but there are some that we really should put thought into.

How many times have we said something or done something that we immediately wish that we hadn't? I find that when we are speaking with others, we really should slow down and really know and understand what we are saying. I'm learning that in my later years I need to not be so immediately reactive. I tend to say what is immediately my reaction to a thing. Whether it was something that was said or done.

I used to laugh at my great grandmother (who was 102 when she died) because she said whatever she wanted to say whenever she wanted to. It didn't matter who she was talking to or what the subject was. I find myself at that stage of my life where I'm doing that, even though I have a long way to go to catch up with her.

With that said, I have to constantly remind myself, because I am a feeler, that I can't do that because nine times out of ten what I said will bother me because I said it more than it will bother the person that it was said to.

So, let me tell you, as a friend, be aware of what you say and how you say it. It can literally make or break someone's spirit. We are in a time where if we don't monitor what we say and how we say it, can really be a matter of life or death.

Now, when you think of my words, you can say, "A friend said...".

Take care of yourself and be safe.


The State of the Mind

With all that is going on around us today, it is no wonder that so many things are spiraling out of control.

As we attempt to deal with the changes that we have been forced to implement into our daily lives, it can become a bit overwhelming. Some of us are faced with the whole back-to-school issue. Do we or don't we? For each family, this crisis can and does have a different answer. It can be argued in a lot of different ways.

What we do know is that the number of cases and deaths attributed to COVID-19 changes from one week to another. At one point, the numbers are going down. At another point, the numbers are going up. Another thing that we know for sure is that we have got to come up with an equation that gets us control of and elimination of this virus.

During this time, as many of us are spending way more time together as a family and trying to cope with the daily decision making of safety, please remember that we need to take time away from everything and everyone in order to keep ourselves together mentally and spiritually. This time does not have to be lengthy, but enough to remove ourselves away from the noise in order to settle our minds.

We must remember that in what used to be normal times, we were away from our families for 8-10 hours a day. During that time, we had conversations with other adults about any number of topics. Now, for some of us, we don't have that luxury.

Please, let's individually take care of our minds so that we can collectively take care of each other.


Our Voices

As we near the country's election day, let us look back over the past 4 years and contemplate the things that we have witnessed and suffered through.

We have seen some fundamental things that have caused us to question our democracy. Our constitution has been debated on topics that have not been debated in the country's modern history, and in some cases have never been debated. As we have in years past debated our civil liberties, we have come to debate the issue again.

We seem to be in a cycle of human unrest that countless citizens are protesting. There is a tremendous divide in the nation regarding the constitutional right of all citizens to be treated equally under the law.

I'm not sure where we go from here. I guess for me, I have a hard time understanding why any one person or group of people's lives can be considered more important than another's. This is evident in countless scenarios that can be seen on any given media outlet. Whereas we have to be vigilant in our discernment of what is real and what is not, we must pay attention.

My hope for this election cycle is that we have registered to vote and that we exercise our right to vote. Also, that we have been in tune with things that are transpiring around us to be able to make an informed assessment of changes that need to be made. We can make a difference in our society if we use our voices when we vote. Let's not stand on the sidelines and allow things to happen around us when we can make a difference.

Vote. Vote. Vote. November 3, 2020.



I know.  I know.  Another posting on this ongoing pandemic.

I just want to admonish everyone to be vigilant with your safety and that of others.  Please consider that wearing a mask and maintaining social distancing is not only for someone else's safety but also for your own.

I'm sure that most of us are feeling inhibited and isolated from our daily routines and our social events.  Tempers are flaring and running hot.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion and beliefs.  If we would only consider that others' opinions and beliefs may not be ours.  Just because we don't feel the same way about something doesn't make the other person wrong.

With the daily increase of cases, we must consider the fact that this pandemic is not going to go away or even get better if we don't considerably slow down the number of people contracting the virus.

We have to do everything we can to ride this out until a vaccine or cure is found.

We must wear masks when in public and maintain social distancing.  We may not like it, we may even rebel against it.  But remember that this is not going away without all of us taking responsibility to do what we can (masks and distancing) for as long as it takes for the country to recover.

Be safe and STOP THE HATE!  Everyone wants and deserves to live.  We are all human beings.


America’s Supposed Ignorance

The country has just celebrated Juneteenth.  On June 19, 1865, (in Texas), slavery was said to have ended.  The Emancipation Proclamation was declared by President Lincoln on January 1, 1863.

98 years later, I was born into a society in which I was supposedly free.  I was not.

"I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America.  And to the Republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all"

When I was in school, from kindergarten through 12th grade, we had to place our hands over our hearts and recite those words as if they applied to us.

I can remember when I was in grade school, on the route that we took home every day, we would pass a motel that had a swimming pool outside.  Periodically, I would ask my dad (who is a 91-year-old wounded Korean War Veteran) to take me swimming there.  His reply was always the same.  "Maybe one day, baby."

It wasn't until I was much older that I learned that the reason my dad hadn't taken me swimming there was that he couldn't take me swimming there.  There were no 'Negroes' allowed.  (one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all)

The history books in my day taught us that Christopher Columbus discovered America.  It wasn't until I was an adult that research showed me that the Native Americans (Indians as they were called) were already established here.

Christopher Columbus was an immigrant.  Because he was a white man and had the power to kill and uproot a lot of the Native Americans, he declared that he discovered a place that he actually stole.  Thus white supremacy.

Later, the men of the Caucasian persuasion sailed to Africa and stole Negro human beings from their native land to be slaves (free labor) to make them wealthy with no thought of compensation for their labor.

Ne·gro /ˈnēɡrō/


As of May 1, 2020, there were still quite a lot of Americans that chose to perceive that systemic racism and oppression do not exist.

Since George Floyd's blatant murder by police officers in Minneapolis who have taken an oath to protect and serve and who are paid by taxpayers to do so, many previously silent Americans have raised their voices in protest and are finally saying that this total lack of respect for human beings with Black and Brown skin has to change.

The thing that I have not been able to wrap my head around is the fact that this didn't start with George Floyd.  This has been happening for centuries, yet some in White America have chosen to ignore it in order to maintain their stolen status and subsequent wealth.

I don't like to think of myself as a racist.  I am a fair-minded person that accepts people for who they show themselves to be.  The late, great Maya Angelou said, "When a person tells you who they are, Believe Them."

I do, however, have a bias toward people who treat me unfairly and differently than they treat people who look like them, and people who make assumptions about me because of the color of my skin.

I thank God that my parents didn't raise me to hate [people].  I was taught that everyone deserves to be treated fairly and as human beings.

The reason for the protests that have occurred over the decades, in my opinion, is that Black Americans have been seeking in this country for hundreds of years to be treated as humans and given the opportunities that non-Black and Brown people have been afforded all of their lives. (one nation under God, indivisible with Liberty and Justice for all)

We, Black Americans, are not here by our choosing.  We were kidnapped and forced into this country.  White America made us citizens when our ancestors were forced to have families in this country.  White supremacists will tell us to go back to where we came from.  Well, I have news for you.  We came from here because of you, you didn't come from here. You're all immigrants!,Current%20Population%20Survey%20(CPS).

America can no longer claim ignorance in the racism and oppression of Black people in this country.  Your eyes have seen and your ears have heard.  What you do now will define you in history.  Be the human being that God created you to be.

Vote to remove those that have turned their heads to avoid addressing oppression and racism.  The Constitution was written for ALL Americans.  The last time I looked at my birth certificate, my country of birth is 'The United States of America'.



Thank you to all who have taken a stand and are speaking out in protest against the injustice taking place in this country.

Leap Year 2020

Well, it’s been four years since we had babies born on February 29. I’m still not sure how they celebrate their birthdays. In any event, Happy Birthday to ALL of the ones celebrating this day around the world.

As we celebrate the new lives arriving today, I hope that you are doing, will be doing or did something that will give cause to remember this day in the future.

Reach out to an old friend. Call a relative that has been estranged. Do something to make someone else and yourself feel alive and grateful to be so.

Find peace for yourself and enjoy the life that you are meant to live. Stay positive.